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The Breaking Point: How do Relationships affect your Weight?

Posted on: July 30, 2009

untitledMost people have moments in their lives that trigger action!  To some, this trigger to take action happens after a break-up or before a big event like a wedding or reunion.  These actions may be positive or negative but do impact your life as they create a cross-road between positive and negative choice. Do you choose positive route that focuses on taking care of your well-being or do you fall into darkness and self-doubt by making a negative choice?

As an example, in recent years we have seen Jessica Simpson going from super slim in her daisy duke days (after breaking up with ex Nick Lachey) to a little extra baggage during her “comfortable in love”  weight gain (dating Tony Romo) back to a fit and fierce workout regimen (after recent break-up with Romo). We have seen all the many sizes of this young star throughout the relationship triggers in her life.

One question to ask is this, Why do relationships play a part in triggering us to shed as well gaining un-wanted pounds? We found the following answers to this question at:

1. Bye-Bye Motivation:
When you’re single and looking for love, you probably take more care of your appearance by eating healthier and exercising more – you want to impress future love matches after all. You may cook healthy meals at home for yourself and you have more time and interest in running or going to the gym. Once you finally hook up and fall in love, you don’t feel as motivated to look good because you’ve already hooked him. Love has a way of making you feel special, no matter how much weight you gain, especially if your boyfriend doesn’t acknowledge your body’s changes. And once you’re married, other responsibilities become more important – your kids, home, money, work, expenses – and looking good becomes second priority.

2. He’s Rubbing Off On Me
Your friends and family can certainly tempt you to stray from healthy eating habits, and your partner is no different. Besides, eating with someone is always more fun, and you don’t feel as guilty about indulging in fatty foods because someone else is too. A lot of men aren’t the healthiest eaters to begin with, and you may start to inherit your guy’s pizza and beer diet as a way to bond or because it’s an easy solution to dinner. If your boyfriend isn’t regularly active, it might be difficult for you to get up for that run when he’s pulling you back on the couch to cuddle. It’s always more of a challenge to remain healthy in the face of temptation.

3. I Don’t Have Time to Exercise Anymore!
You love him, you want him, you have to have him – every single moment of the day. New couples tend to spend a lot of time together, forgoing the activities they did when they were single. Your alone time becomes your couple time, especially if you have a busy schedule with work or other priorities. Visits to the gym and those solo after-work walks around the neighborhood get put on the back burner in favor of spending time with your partner. Women are also the caretakers in the relationships, so they’re more prone to put their needs, healthy and otherwise, last on the list. If you’re married and busy with kids and other responsibilities, you don’t have the time or the energy to even think about exercise!

4. Stress
What’s to stress about when you’re in a loving, fun relationship? Good, stress, known as eustress, can actually fuel your relationship weight gain. Even happy, euphoric feelings can make you turn to the fridge in almost a celebration mentality. However, you’re sure to experience the bad kind of stress when your relationship hits some bumps in the road, and one of the most common ways people deal with stress is to try and eat it away, which you know backfires.

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